Seth and I met playing softball. It certainly wasn't where I expected to meet my husband nor do I think it's where he expected to meet his wife. But we did and it's been great.
Neither one of us was necessarily looking for a serious relationship. He was dating someone else and in a casual conversation had mentioned how important it was to him and his family that he marry someone Jewish. I wasn't necessarily opposed to marrying someone outside of my religion but always somehow managed to meet nice Catholic boys. My religion was important to me and being Catholic was an important part of my identity. Thus, it just seemed to me that my children would experience religion through the Catholic Church.
We had been dating for just a couple of months and I remember this moment as well as I remember how he proposed to me. We were stopped at a light and I had realized within a few weeks of us dating, that this was more than just a casual fling. We connected in a way I had never known or quite frankly ever imagined was possible. I know, very cheesy and over the top, but there is truly no other way to describe it. At that light, I finally just asked the dreaded question- "Where do you see this going?"
After a long discussion on how we felt about our religions and what was important to us as far as raising a family, we realized we both wanted the same thing. To have a family that honored God in our everyday life and to raise children, as simple as this sounds, who were good people.
We decided at this moment that if this relationship led to marriage, we would teach our children to know and respect both faiths and trust them to make their own decision at the point where they would normally have a confirmation or bar mitzvah.
And so as the saying it goes- that's how it all began...
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